What do you call a life that has journeyed through nine decades, yet whose light still illuminates the paths of others? That, indeed, was what it was when family members, community stakeholders, friends, associates, and well-wishers gathered recently to celebrate the 90th Birthday Thanksgiving and reception programme of Deaconess Janet Olufunmilayo Falobi (JP).

It was more than a gathering; it was a reverent unfolding of gratitude, memory, and honour. It was a moment where longevity met legacy, and where years were not simply counted but deeply felt in the lives she has shaped along the way. The celebration was simply to honour a woman, mother, grandmother and great-grandmother, whose journey was not defined by spectacle, but by substance; not by noise, but by impact; not by what was gotten, but by what was given.

Through changing seasons of life, Dcns. J.O Falobi has remained a stabilising force—anchored in God, guided by integrity, and expressed through love that reaches far beyond her immediate family.

Across generations, she served as a pillar—of family unity, spiritual depth, and community influence. Her life echoed in the values she has nurtured, the prayers she has offered, and the countless lives she has touched with wisdom, care, and grace.

The Beginning, how life started

Deaconess J.O. Falobi, affectionately known as Mama Falobi, Mama Iwoye, or simply Grandma, was born on 20 May 1936 in Iwoye-Ijesa, in present-day Osun State, Nigeria. She was the first daughter of Mr Matthew Adewusi Oni, popularly known as “Jebooda”, who had three wives. Her mother was Mrs Grace Lolade Oni, fondly called “Iya Alate”.

That was how the story of her life began. A key influence on her formative years came from her paternal grandmother, High Chief Mariam Adekunbi Arowopayin, fondly known as “Iya Onikango”, of the Ribodewu Royal Family, under whose guidance she imbibed the virtues of responsibility, respect, hard work, and leadership—qualities that would later define her life’s journey.

Early education became one of the defining hallmarks of her life. In 1944, she began her formal schooling at St. Thomas’ Primary School, Iwoye-Ijesa.

However, this significant step was not without an element of divine providence. One of the earliest turning points in Mama Falobi’s life came through the quiet yet decisive intervention of a remarkable man, the late Mr T. A. Oginni. Acting as a mentor and benefactor, he recognised her potential at a time when opportunities for young girls were often limited. His timely support and unwavering belief in her abilities proved pivotal, setting in motion an educational journey that would ultimately shape the course of her life.

In those earlier days, when school admission processes were far less formal than they are today, a child’s readiness for formal education was often judged by a simple physical assessment. The child was asked to stretch one hand over the head to touch the opposite ear. If this could not be done, it was taken as a sign that the child was too small or too young for school.

By this measure, the young Olufunmilayo did not qualify. Her small stature meant she failed the test, and she was initially deemed unfit for admission. The implication was severe—she stood the risk of losing an entire academic year, a delay that, for many children of that era, could quietly derail their educational future.

However, Mr. Oginni saw something different. Where others saw physical limitation, he perceived potential. He recognised in her a spark of intelligence, a depth of readiness, and an eagerness to learn that could not be measured by physical tests. Refusing to let her size define her destiny, he advocated firmly that she be given the opportunity to begin school.

That intervention proved both decisive and transformative. What might have been dismissed as a minor act of advocacy became a defining moment—an opening of doors that would otherwise have remained closed.

From that point forward, the young girl who once stood at the edge of exclusion stepped firmly into a lifelong journey of learning, service, and excellence. She would later emerge as an educator, community leader, church worker, and trailblazer—her life bearing testimony to the power of belief, encouragement, and timely intervention.

Looking back, that single act of faith in her potential stands not merely as a memory, but as the foundation upon which a legacy of impact was quietly built.

It marked the beginning of an impressive educational journey through:

• St. Thomas’ Primary School, Iwoye-Ijesa;
• St. Matthew’s School, Ijebu-Jesa;
• CAC School, Ikirun’
• Methodist School, Ikirun;
• St. Clare’s College, Osogbo;
• Gombe Teachers College;
• Federal Teachers College, Kontagora.

Her academic excellence was evident as she consistently distinguished herself among her peers and laid the foundation for a lifelong commitment to learning.

For Mama Falobi, the lesson remained unforgettable: sometimes all a child needs is one person who believes in their potential. For her, Mr. T.A. Oginni was that person, and his faith in her, helped shape a legacy that continues to inspire generations over many years.

A marriage built on love and partnership

One of the most cherished aspects of Mama Falobi’s life remains her marriage to the late Pa Samuel Ogunsure Falobi.

Married on 3^rd of May 1959, their union, which lasted forty-four years until his passing on 5 August 2003, was characterised by mutual respect, shared values, sacrifice, and unwavering commitment.

She often described him as:

• A loving husband
• A caring father
• A courageous man
• A pillar of support
• A refuge for many people

Pa Samuel Falobi was widely respected as an educator, philanthropist, counsellor, and community leader. Together, they built a home that became a refuge for relatives, friends, and many young people seeking support and guidance.

Even after her husband’s passing in 2003, the values they cultivated together continued to flourish through their children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, and extended family.

Her reflections on marriage remain timeless. According to her, “To have a successful marriage, there must be perseverance, genuine love, honesty, generosity, accommodation, and hospitality.”

Many relatives found accommodation, guidance, and support under their roof. Their home became known as a place where people were welcomed and encouraged to pursue educational goals and explore vocational development; a legacy that brought transformation and impact to the life of many.

The path of a career in education

Few professions could have suited Janet Olufunmilayo Falobi better than teaching. It was not just a profession, it was a calling.

She started her working career at St. Francis Pry School, Osogbo in 1953, from where she gained admission to St. Clare’s College for her Grade 3 Teachers Certificate. After completion, she was posted to St. Paul’s R.C.M School, Ikirun and then to St. John’s School ‘A’ Iloro, Ilesa.

Upon marriage, her teaching career expanded to various parts of Nigeria, including:

• Otukpo
• Kaduna
• Kano
• Zaria
• Jos
• Bauchi
• Mubi
• Keffi
• Kontagora

In 1975, she returned back to Iwoye Ijesa, on relocation with her husband and thereafter continued her service between 1975 and 1987 as follows:

• Jehovah Jireh Africa Primary School, Ijebu-Jesa
• Ilo-Ayegunle Local Authority School (as Headmistress)
• Ijebu-Jesa Grammar School

As a Fine Arts teacher, she became renowned for her creativity, discipline, and commitment to excellence. Her impact on generations of students extended beyond the classroom. She taught values, inspired confidence, and encouraged her students to pursue excellence in all aspects of life. She retired in 1987 after an outstanding 35-year teaching career.

After retirement, she got engaged in patent medicine enterprise and household provision and for many years was the Director of Emiloju stores, Iwoye Ijesa.

Breaking barriers and setting records

Early in life, Mama Falobi consistently challenged societal limitations and expanded opportunities for women. She had consistently proved that women could excel in spaces traditionally occupied by men.

In 1962, she became the first woman in Iwoye-Ijesa to drive a motor vehicle, an extraordinary achievement at a time when female drivers were a rarity.

Despite family responsibilities, child bearing and related family commitments, she remained dogged to get the best that education could give her by advancing educationally. With a goal to excel and set the pace, she sought to advance her career by further studies and emerged with the best overall result in Fine Arts at the Federal Teachers College, Kontagora.

In the aftermath of this, she participated in the National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) programme in 1981, and received the prestigious Oyo State Governor’s Award, a milestone that reflected not only her personal excellence at the time, but also her unwavering commitment to continuous self-development.

Remarkably, this was achieved while she remained deeply committed to the education and career of her children—as well as the vocational advancement of her siblings and other close relatives, whom she consistently supported and encouraged to pursue their aspirations.

Her excellence and pioneering spirit continued in later years. She was recognised as the Best Fine Arts Teacher at Ijebu-Jesa Grammar School for four consecutive years (1984–1987).

In 1991, she won election to be first female Councillor from Iwoye-Ijesa, thus being the first female Councillor in the entire Ife-Ijesa Constituency.

She achieved other rare feats, as follows:

• The first female President of the Iwoye-Ijesa Descendants’ Union (IDU), 2002-2006;
• A Director of the Iwoye-Ijesa Community Microfinance Bank (2002-2008);
• Recipient of the Most Valuable Director Award from Iwoye-Ijesa Community Microfinance Bank;
• A special status as an advisor to the Oba-in-council during the reign of Oba PO. Oni as the Oniwoye of Iwoye-Ijesa;
• Honour and recognition from the St. Thomas’ Primary School as an Industrious Daughter of Iwoye-Ijesa Kingdom (2016);
• Woman/Choir leader and composer of songs for several years in her stewardship at Apostolic Church, Iwoye-Ijesa, among others.

These milestones were not merely personal achievements; they opened doors for other women and demonstrated that leadership and excellence know no gender boundaries.

A journey of deep affection and uncompromising faith

If there is one thread that runs consistently through Mama Falobi’s life story, it is her unwavering faith in God.

A devoted member of The Apostolic Church Nigeria, she was:

• Baptised in 1957 by Pastor Oniyilo.
• Received into full fellowship by Pastor S.A. Lawal.
• Ordained a Deaconess in 1987 by Apostle G.O. Olutola.
• Baptised in the Holy Spirit in 2003.
• Undertook a pilgrimage to the Holy Land in Israel in 2007.

Her commitment to prayer is legendary, while her generosity and genuine concern for the welfare of others know no bounds. She has demonstrated an uncommon capacity to love, give, and care without discrimination, touching countless lives through her kindness, compassion, and selflessness.

Many of those who paid tribute during her 90th birthday celebrations described her as a woman whose faith has remained steadfast and unshaken despite the challenges and trials that life inevitably presents. Through seasons of joy and adversity alike, she has consistently placed her trust in God, drawing strength from her deep spiritual convictions.

She has been a mother-hen to many; serving the role of a counsellor, peacemaker, looking out for the welfare and the interests of many.

Her watchword was fairness and impartiality. With the same vigour with which she had used to keep the S.O Falobi family bond together, she has also used as a girdle to keep her siblings united in love, offering same to extended family members, relatives, friends and all who have reasons to associate with; that peace and harmony may continue to exist in homes and families. 

The composer, reader and lifelong Learner

One of Mama Falobi’s unique gifts is her ability to compose songs and anthems.

Many of her compositions, she often says, came through dreams and divine inspiration.

She is also an avid reader who enjoys:

• The Bible
• Newspapers
• Magazines
• Christian literature
• Educational materials

Even at ninety, she remains mentally active, informed, and curious about current affairs.

Her children and grandchildren affectionately describe her as a technologically savvy grandmother who keeps up with family and friends through WhatsApp, Facebook, radio, television, including watching movies via cable tv and other media platforms.

Service: to the Church and community

Her commitment to church and religious activities remain uncompromising.

Over the years, she has served as:

• Choir Leader;
• Prayer Warrior Leader;
• Women’s Movement Leader;
• Church Building Committee Member;
• Harvest Committee Member.

Wherever she is, she has been consistent in the service of God, as a member of the choir, leading prayer sessions and taking bible readings in religious gatherings, beyond the walls of her local church.

Mama Falobi, has also over the years, devoted herself to community development.

She has actively participated in:

• The Amuludun Society
• Young Sisters Club
• Community development initiatives
• Women’s leadership programmes
• Political mobilisation and civic engagement

Her contributions continue to influence social and community life in Iwoye-Ijesa and beyond.

The values that define her Legacy

When asked about life’s lessons, Mama Falobi’s responses are simple but profound:

• Persevere until challenges are overcome.
• Be honest in all dealings.
• Forgive freely.
• Hold no grudges.
• Trust God completely.

She dislikes:

• Cheating
• Dishonesty
• Laziness

Her core values are entrenched in diligence, integrity, kindness, humility, hospitality, and faithfulness.

These values have become the foundation upon which her family and many others continue to build their lives.

Beyond 90, the legacy speaks

As the memories of her 90th birthday celebration continue to inspire all who attended, one truth remains evident: Deaconess Janet Olufunmilayo Falobi’s greatest achievement is not found in the awards she received, the positions she held, or the milestones she accomplished.

Her greatest achievement lies in the lives she has touched.

Her story is not merely the story of a woman who has lived for ninety years; it is the story of a woman who made those ninety years count, and still counting as the days of her nonagenarian years runs into days, weeks, months and many more years of wellness and good health for sustained impact to lives around her.

The story of her life is not defined by her wealth or status but by her service, and the positive imprint of impact on the lives she has touched.

Her first child, Dr. Lola Falobi, describes her as a prayerful and spiritually active woman who has been his counsellor, adviser, pathfinder, and friend. He praised her as a true Proverbs 31 woman, a loyal wife, loving mother, committed home builder, and dedicated servant of God whose nurturing influence has shaped generations. For her first daughter, Mrs. Yemi Owopetu, she is a woman of faith, grace, beauty, and elegance, whose calm strength, prayers, patience, humour, and unconditional love have left an enduring legacy within the family. Another son of hers, Dr. Tope Babalobi described her as a pillar of support, while Dr. (Mrs) Dupe Obiora, her second daughter noted that her impact as a gifted songwriter, choir leader, and composer of music has inspired worshippers and drawn many closer to God.

Meanwhile, Mrs Stella Nkechi Falobi, her daughter-in-law based in Warri, joined many others in praising her as a pillar of strength, unity, and love, whose fervent prayers for her children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren continue to sustain and strengthen the family.

Similarly, Mrs Bukola Bababalobi, Mrs Aderonke Falobi, and Mrs Funmi Falobi, also individually and collectively, spoke with one voice in celebrating her virtues as a loving and admirable mother-in-law whose warmth, wisdom, and care have endeared her to all who have had the privilege of being part of her family.

On behalf of Word Alive Church, Calabar, Rev. Mike Obiora described her life as a shining example of unwavering faith, selfless service, godly character, and steadfast dedication to the work of God. He noted that her lifelong commitment to Christian values continues to inspire those around her and serves as a model for younger generations.

Engr. Niyi Falobi, on behalf of himself and his family, expressed profound gratitude for her love and sacrifices. He recalled how she and her late husband became both parents and guardians to him and his siblings following the loss of their father, providing not only care and support, but also guidance, stability, and encouragement during a critical period in their lives.

Dr. Tunde Oludahunsi, who lived under her care during his secondary school years, and referred himself as her ‘chemical’ son, remembered her kindness, patience, humility, and willingness to nurture both biological and extended family members without complaint.

Engr. Dideolu Falobi, referred to her as one of the pillars of the family, noting that her quiet strength, steadfast loyalty, and graceful leadership continue to inspire all who know her.

While one of her sisters, Mrs. Foluso Oyeniyi, noted that  Deaconess Falobi had assumed  a fatherly role after the passing of their father, guiding and supporting her siblings with extraordinary sacrifice, wisdom, and love, another, Deaconess Adunni Awe, credited her for ensuring the continuation of her education and expressed gratitude for decades of support and encouragement.

Traditional and community leaders also joined in the celebrations. The Oniwoye of Iwoye-Ijesa, HRM Oba Ogidiolu Adewunmi, noted that her life is a testimony to God’s goodness. HRM Noble Eshemmitan, the Ovie of Oghara Kingdom, Delta State, congratulated her on attaining the remarkable age of ninety, while the Aro of Iwoye-Ijesa, High Chief Akinyele Oluwadare, described her as a worthy example of motherhood.

High Chief Tope Falore, one of her in-laws, praised her unblemished character, integrity, and godly example, the same line of thoughts echoed by another in-law, Pastor Ayodele Mustapha, who commended her hospitality, kindness, and Christ-like love.

While Prince Wole Oginni, former Managing Director of Iwoye-Ijesa Community Bank, described her as a kind, humble, gentle, and hardworking woman, Pastor M. S. Tolani and Deaconess M. B. Tolani of The Apostolic Church described her life as a testimony to God’s sustaining grace and faithfulness. A tribute from the Atewojaye family also commended her outstanding contributions and selfless service to the community.

In the same vein, Pastors James and Bunmi Pelemo of The Overcomers Church, Lagos, celebrated her as a disciplined, focused, and steadfast believer whose life exemplifies God’s faithfulness, while Pastor Funke Ibigbami described her as the epitome of Christian devotion, generosity, and prayerfulness, recalling her invaluable contributions during a recent church programme.

Ven. Joseph Adediji, Principal, Igbobi College, Yaba (ICY), who led a delegation of the ICY management and the PTA to the thanksgiving event, appreciated and noted God’s grace upon the celebrant and the family.
Meanwhile, from tributes across the grandchildren, Bukola Falobi described her as the matriarch whose life reflects God’s mercy, faithfulness, and protection, while another, Dr Jesufemi Owopetu called her a role model whose life inspires everyone.

In another round of tributes, Mrs Tonia Chinemerem and her family congratulated her on her longevity and enduring impact, while the Enejor family recalled her generosity, noting that on every of her visit to Lagos, she came with carefully labelled gifts for family members, regardless of her advancing age.

Also, while Mrs Motunrayo Akinrinde described her as humility personified, Taofeek Ejalonibu praised her life of faith, love, and service,  Mrs Ajulo Victoria, her birthday mate, celebrated her loving and appreciative nature.

Qládélé Mádùnjaye and the Alujoonu Kafinta Family described her as an exemplary Christian, disciplined community leader, whose contribution to the community as president of IDU was marked by accountability, resilience, and progress.

Meanwhile, Ogunsola Ajayi, JP, Esq., reflected on the years he spent living with her family in Otukpo, Benue State, recalling her gentle disposition, patience, and motherly care.

Collectively, these tributes paint the portrait of a remarkable woman whose ninety years have been defined by pioneering achievements, educational advancement, spiritual devotion, community leadership, family sacrifice, generosity, and an unwavering commitment to uplifting others.

For all whose lives she has touched, she remains a living testament to faith, service, resilience, and grace. Indeed, the enduring legacy of Deaconess Janet Olufunmilayo Falobi is not merely the story of a ninety-year-old woman; it is the story of a life of impact—impact made and still being made at ninety. And that is a legacy truly worth celebrating.

By Sanmi Falobi, Guest Writer/Executive Editor, Social Devt News